Pregnancy Diary - Girl Mama.
ITS A GIRL!....
We are so excited to finally tell everyone that we are welcoming a second beautiful little girl in to our family and I can honestly say we are all so beyond excited. It's been so hard to not say anything on my Instagram and there's been many times I've said "her" or "she" and had to delete my videos or when recording Millie on my stories shes said baby sister so Iv'e had to mute the video but it was also nice to have that little secret for ourselves for a while.
From the day we told Millie I was pregnant she was dead set that Mummy had her baby sister in her tummy and when we tried to tell her it could be a brother she just kept saying "No, no its my baby sister in there." I'm sure she somehow knew. Growing up in a family of 5 with 3 girls in row I know how special it is to have a sister so I am so excited to be able to give my girls that gift.
I never imagined myself as a mum to girls, in fact I never really imagined myself as a mum at all but I can clearly remember when I found out that I was pregnant the intense fear of having the responsibility of raising a daughter if I was having a girl. I kept wondering how on earth I would be able to be a good role model for a young girl with my history of self hate and body issues as well as a eating disorder that controlled me for so long secretly. I worried that I wouldn't be able to teach her how to be a confident, strong woman because I had never felt that I had been one myself.
During my pregnancy with Millie I had convinced myself that I was having a boy and that that was all I wanted and when I found out she was a girl I was so shocked with the emotions I felt because I felt so overwhelmed with happiness that I was taken back.
From the day Millie was born I knew that I had been given the responsibility of ensuring that I was a good role model to her as a women and I have definitely made it my mission to do so. In doing this I have really discovered myself, found a career and voice to use to help other women that I love. I can honestly say I have changed as a woman and person since being a mother with this purpose and now I can see that being a mum to girls is so much a part of what was meant for me and that not only was I given this gift to raise strong women for their own sake but also that I have been taught and gifted so much myself by having a daughter and soon 2!
I truly hope that I can raise young girls who know their worth is not based on their appearances, that they can be or do whatever they want even though they are female and that they are full of self love and respect. I also want them to know that kindness is the most important trait they can have and that it can change the world.
Any child is a blessing and I'm sure that if we had a boy I would have been over the moon to be able to give David a son and to know the feeling of raising a boy also but something about being a girl Mum just feels so right in my soul at this point in my life.
In saying all of this I do believe raising girls in this world is scary and is going to be a huge task with social media, bully, eating disorders that are on the rise in younger and younger children and the pressure to look a certain way BUT i believe its our responsibility as parents of both boy and girls to change this for our kids and I do see change in some way with the rise of body positivity and inclusion of all shapes and sizes but we still have a long way to go. At the end of the day we can only teach them and show them the way by leading by example and being kind to each other and to ourselves.
I just wanted to say a big thank you for all the love and support we received on our announcement, our beautiful baby girl is already so loved and also for all the support I have around me throughout this challenging time which is pregnancy with HG. You all mean so much to me and help me more than you know.
Photography: Daphne Heath www.daphneheathphotography.com
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